Marriage the Second Time Around - Celebrating Love, Wisdom & New Beginnings

Not all relationships last forever, and for many couples, love finds its way back—arriving wiser, steadier, and more deeply felt than ever before. When two people discover new love later in life, after children, challenges, or the closing of earlier chapters, there is absolutely no reason why their wedding ceremony shouldn’t be just as joyful, meaningful, and deeply personal as any first-time celebration.

As an Authorised Marriage Celebrant, I have the privilege of working with couples who are entering marriage the second time around. What makes these ceremonies so special is the honesty and maturity that sit at their heart. This is love born from life experience—love that knows what it wants, what truly matters, and what is worth cherishing.

Honouring Your Journey and Your Family

Second-time-around weddings often bring blended families together, adding layers of tenderness and significance to the ceremony. While it’s a time of hope and joy, it can also be emotional for children who have journeyed through earlier family changes.

For this reason, I often offer words on behalf of my couples that gently acknowledge the children who stand beside them—recognising that it hasn’t always been easy, that their feelings matter, and that this new chapter is built not on replacing the past, but on embracing a future where everyone belongs.

These acknowledgements, simple and sincere, can help children feel included and honoured, rather than observers in the background. They affirm that the foundation of this new beginning is love—not just between two partners, but within the family as a whole.

A Touch of Nostalgia

Sometimes, words from the past say it best, such as the lyrics from the 1960s classic “The Second Time Around”, sung by Bing Crosby, Frank Sinatra and Tony Bennett.

This song reflects the gentle wisdom that comes with finding love again later in life. It speaks of a second chance at love that feels deeper and more grounded—still wonderful, but steadier, calmer, and more comfortable than before. It captures the sense of coming home to someone, of recognising the miracle of rediscovered connection, and of proving that love is not limited to youth or first experiences. Instead, it can return even more beautifully the second time around.

Creating a Ceremony that Reflects you Both

One of the great gifts of getting married later in life is the freedom that comes with it. There are fewer “shoulds” and far more possibilities. Your ceremony can be:

• relaxed and intimate

• elegant and stylish

• full of family involvement

• simple, heartfelt, and grounded

• or something entirely your own

Many couples choose to involve their children in meaningful ways—inviting them to read a poem, participate in a unity ritual, or stand beside you as witnesses to the promises you make.

A second-time-around wedding isn’t about recreating the past. It’s about celebrating the life you’ve lived, the love you’ve found, and the future you’re choosing together—with both feet firmly and beautifully on the ground.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is a second-time-around wedding different from a first wedding?

Only if you want it to be. Many couples getting married later in life choose something more relaxed and personal, while others celebrate in grand style. The beauty is that there are no rules—just what feels authentic to you.

Can we include our children in our second marriage ceremony?

Absolutely. Blended family weddings offer countless opportunities to involve children, such as:

• walking down the aisle together

• reading a poem or blessing

• sharing in a unity ritual

• presenting family vows. Involving children can often help them feel embraced and valued in the new family unit.

  
  

How do we acknowledge children from previous relationships?

You can include gentle wording that honours their journey and the changes they’ve already navigated. Many couples find that a simple, heartfelt acknowledgement brings comfort and connection. As a celebrant, I can help you craft language that feels authentic and respectful.

Do we need to mention previous marriages?

Not at all. Some couples prefer not to reference the past, while others choose a brief acknowledgment of the life chapters that shaped them—especially when children are involved. It’s always framed with positivity and gratitude.

Are second marriages usually smaller?

Many are, but it’s entirely up to you. Whether you prefer an intimate elopement, a relaxed beach ceremony, or a full celebration with loved ones, second-time-around weddings are wonderfully flexible.

What should we wear to a second wedding?

Anything that feels like you. From elegant gowns and chic suits to modern, colourful outfits, there are no expectations or “rules” to follow. Couples getting married later in life often choose comfort, confidence, and authenticity over tradition.

Can we have a wedding party?

Of course. You can include bridesmaids, groomsmen, or a simple group of witnesses—or you may choose to stand alone together. It’s your ceremony, your story, your way.

Can we include symbolic rituals?

Yes. Handfasting, candle lighting, sand ceremonies, tree planting, and many other rituals can add depth and meaning—especially when involving children. These moments help symbolise the unity of your new family.

Do we need to follow traditional etiquette?

Not at all. Second-time-around weddings tend to be more relaxed, modern, and tailored to the couple. Walk down the aisle together, skip formal speeches, or share a quiet celebration—whatever feels right for your relationship.

How can a celebrant help make a second marriage special?

A celebrant brings experience, sensitivity, and storytelling to your ceremony. I work closely with couples to create a celebration that honours your journey, embraces your blended family, and captures the warmth, maturity, and deep appreciation that come with finding love again.

💌 Ready to start planning? Let’s chat about your vision for your special day. Reach out to me here on my website and let’s create something truly special together.